Most important to the change David Lynch wasn't anywhere near as disorientating and frightening as his films were to me. I no longer saw the provocatuer trying to snatch my soul, but an astute observer of the human condition. I would see these interviews intermittently and somewhere around the middle of that journey I somewhat relaxed in my disposition. Having relaxed, I began to feel “as wrong as I had been about the man, maybe I had been as wrong about his films?”. Maybe I somehow “felt” wrong. I decided finally to see “Blue Velvet” and found that feelings regardless of feelings don't change much. You cannot logic your way out of most of them, no more than turning on the light and explaining to a child that “nothing is there” solves the problem or their fear, or telling me that snakes are largely not a problem to humans makes me any less wary around them. No, not much had changed, but something big had changed. While this was still not a film I could love in that sense of adulation and compliment, it was a film I loved in the sense of pure attraction and feeling. I saw the humor in the arc and performance he wrote and conjured from Dennis Hopper. I connected with the intense feeling of dread as something repelling me, but also something that fascinated me. I (like so many others) was bewitched by thee Dean Stockwell scene; such a distinctive interruption, an emotional tangent, disruption to his own disruption, a love letter to the power of music. I got it, without “getting it”. I don't have poignant explanations and deconstructions for Lynch’s ouvre and career, but it left an indelible mark on me. Childlike an observation as it may have seemed to others, (and to myself) I realized that much like I don't have to understand his films or any film, I don't have to love a movie, or it's creator to be able to see this person has a power, a mastery, a sense of the divine in us and around us, and most especially in our foibles and our weaknesses, most especially in the dark. I began to interrogate myself as a spectator, to ask myself about my own intuitions, feelings, and aim for a better quality of distinction of thought. Respect is one thing, it's indifferent, ambivalent, distant, cool. I respect alot of peoples work, and in film this comes regularly for movies I can appreciate but not connect to, because the emotions they're aiming for are lost on me. That was never the case with Lynch, I always felt a resounding, loud, drum of emotion watching the films I did see. What Lynch has taught me over the years is that “liking” as it pertains to films and as a direct gateway to love is a bit overrated. That being repelled, confused, disoriented is as important a way to love of art as being attracted, understood, assured, or enlightened. I learned that being confused means to have to do work -work to discover whether or not that confusion is the result of ineptitude, or a lack of execution, or the intentional. Work to challenge your own feelings, sometimes to explore parts of yourself you're not ready to explore. That sometimes even when you think you've done the work you haven't. Maybe that was a undercurrent of the point in Eraserhead? I wouldn't know, I haven't seen it in thirty years. Maybe now is a good time to re-explore? Film school should've taught me this, but it's strict adherence to codes and the import of interpretation led me in the opposite direction. They worshipped Lynch there, but they also worshipped interpreting Lynch there. Wasn't much different to me than how you're taught to love God in most churches. You were supposed to love these images mostly because you're supposed to, and then because you can interpret them. Your love was then not really for the love of the movie, but love of your “exceptional” ability to read it. I did not, not in a way that instantaneously drove me to love. It was Lynch’s own voice neither self depreciating nor boastful, first outside of his films, then in, that gave me this. I may never want to hang out with Lynch films or revisit them consistently, but whenever I'm in their company, whenever I decide it's time to see a new one; like “Inland Empire” or “Lost Highway”, it's a reminder of the best qualities of art, of what we seek in art. I don't think many people will understand what I mean, take this as rubbish. Much film discourse either implicitly or explicitly implies a simple view of the love/hate dichotomy, Lynch set me down the path of not giving a f****. His films will never be my favorites and yet he is one of my favorite filmmakers. The abstract will never be as adored as the linear or decipherable to me on any regular basis, but it's ability to resonate with that part of us that may be afraid to speak, or be seen, that part buried underneath the idea of “self”, will always be far more revolutionary and disruptive. Lynch and his movies embodied a truth I strive for, one that may not exist as a possible goal, but acknowledges the striving as a truth in and of itself. In relation to myself they nudged me to interrogate myself, to ask for more, to dig deeper into processing my own thoughts and dreams. They are not the friends I hang out with everytime it would wear me out to do so, they are the friends I visit every once in long while and though they may not be your best or most beloved, their impact is revelatory each time. In the end you wave goodbye, promise it won't be so long, and then of course…it is.